As we all know, stress can really knock us off of the right path, without a clear mind it’s hard to focus on our goals and what we want to achieve. Whether this be fitness goals or work related goals, we can’t succeed if we’re too focused on something else. With that being said, I would like to introduce a women who is my healer, helps me out regularly with clarifying my mind and is an incredible women: Toks Coker. (http://handsoflight.co.uk/) I recently received an email from Toks explaining all of the boundaries to success and I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to share them with you guys.
There are certain boundaries that should be in place when trying to succeed; this may be to have successful relationships, wealth goals or work aspirations, by setting these boundaries you could see a huge difference in your life.
Focus: Keeping your focus clear and strong is so important. You cannot be restless and focused at the same time, you need to remember why you’re doing what you’re doing and where you plan on going. Make sure nothing gets in the way of your ultimate goal!
Determination: Being determined means that when you fall, you get straight back up. You don’t let things keep you down, you don’t count how many times you’ve fallen, just arise and keep on going. From a walk to a run to eventually a flight – Keep going! PERSEVERE and have COURAGE.
Purpose and Reason: You must know the purpose and reason as to why you want to succeed and what drives you to do so. Maybe it’s a desire to prove someone wrong or to show everyone what you’re really capable of doing. The reason may be obvious but it could also be unknown to you. Why do you want to be successful? What inspires and motivates you?
Reason: What is your thinking for creating boundaries in the first place? Why have you only now decided to create this? Think about why you want to take the actions to be successful? And what is driving you to create your boundaries?
Saying Yes: You need to start saying yes to events that may make you feel anxious, step outside of your comfort zone. Say YES to people who support your growth and success. You need to surround yourself with positive people, say YES to your life. Say YES to learning new ways that will empower your success. Say YES to challenging yourself. Say YES to failure and learn from them mistakes. Says YES to being you. Say YES to your imperfections. Say YES to the hard and the easy parts.
Saying No: Saying NO to events, situations or anything that may disrupt your plan to success is OK! NO smoking or drinking if it will make your mind foggy. Saying NO is fine when you have deadlines to meet, deadlines lead to success. Say NO to negative self-talk. Say NO to failure. Pick yourself up and carry on, now you’ve learnt one way that isn’t possible, find another way to your success.
Quality Time: Make sure you take time out, spend time doing something you love, visit the most important people in your life. Do something that will help you to relax so that you can get straight back to work on your path to success.
Dialogue: Have a clear discussion with the people in your life about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Clarify what’s going on so that they can support you whenever you need it. Sharing your goals and aspirations is always good, because then others can help and motivate you towards it.
Great Aspirations: Having aspirations and goals is important as it gives you something to work towards, making it easier to see your pathway to success. Open up your life and its endless possibilities and believe that you will get what you work for. Then take all actions to get it.
Action: Take any appropriate actions to carry out the tasks you need to do in order for you to achieve the results that you want. Boundaries can be broken and changed as the actions are carried out, things that worked last year may not work this year and vice-versa. Make sure you are flexible to change the actions as it is important when establishing your boundaries for success.
Motivation: You need motivation from yourself and others to keep your energy going, make positive habits that will lead you to your overall goal. If you want to lose weight, your body will not change by watching exercises, you have to get up and change yourself. No one can do it for you. When you feel you have a burning fire within you and this burning fire gets you up to do something you wouldn’t usually do, you know you have motivation to succeed.
Expansion: Being successful means you need boundaries that will allow you to expand your life. Make room in your life to add more, visualise having more success in your life. Be in your imagination, dreams, intuition and in your knowing. Always be optimistic.
Time Wasters: Ignore and take yourself away from people who waste your time or do not contribute anything positive to your life. They may be good for parties but they are not keeping you on the right path, they will just deplete your energy. This is a situation where you should be clear and say NO.
Toxic Relationships: Know who is good for you and who is not, understand that there may be people in your family or close friendships that are creating toxic relationships around you. These people are critical, judgemental, jealous, controlling, envious and often spiteful. You do not want these types of people effecting your pathway to success. Set some boundaries and eliminate them from your setting.
Taking Control: It is so important to be in control of your own boundaries to success, if you do not take control, someone else will. They may push your direction to somewhere you do not want to be. People who guide you to better your results are good for you, but when they become to controlling, that is when you must say NO.
Declaring Boundaries: Are you able to declare your boundaries? Have you found this difficult? Is it OK to be strict in one situation and not strict in another? Try not to have the same boundaries for everyone and everything, sometimes they need to be changed to suit your outcome. What is important is your need to declare what you can and cannot take from a person. You do not need to attack a person, you just need to be centred in your own power portal of stillness. To declare your Boundary is not an easy thing to do. It takes courage, will power and clarity. It involves standing alone and strong in your truth, self-belief and self-worth.
Value of Strangers: Sometimes it takes a while to know the value of meeting new people. It may not always be a great encounter, but that makes you realise you are worth so much more and deserve so much respect. Good influences are important in helping you to maintain your boundaries for success, remember these people and treat them how they deserve to be treated.
Set Good Boundaries and Limits: You should set good boundaries and limits as they can be a great way to prevent unnecessary heartache, suffering and pain. Setting boundaries and limits leads to freedom, peace of mind and a great sense of purpose and being.
Courage: You will need courage to carry out you boundaries, strength to say YES and NO to people and self-confidence and courage to keep your boundaries in place. Also, we may need courage to change a part of our planned pathway and accept that what we did, didn’t work. You need courage to stop what you’re doing and not go any further.
Patience: You will need patience to succeed, things will not just happen the way you want it to, you will face challenges where patience will be necessary.
Forgive: Remember that forgiving yourself and others is hard but possible. Don’t hang on to past mistakes, it can keep you from having a clear mind on your boundaries to success. Forgive, forget, let go and move forwards. Keep all of the negativity out of your mind, body, soul and spirit. Focus of the good.
Not all of these things will work for you, not all of them will be easy, but try each and every one of them to balance out your life and set you on the right pathway to your success. Remember, there will be good and bad times, but as long as you have your mind and heart set on something. You will get there.
I highly recommend that you visit Toks website and have a look at some of the incredible work that she is capable of. (http://www.handsoflight.co.uk/) Or if you have any questions for her about the boundaries to success, why not get in contact with her (http://www.tokscoker.com/index.php/contact-us) or visit her Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/handsoflighthealing). I would like to once again, thank and fully recommend Toks Cokes for her brilliant work and continuous help and support with my healing progress.